She’s a punk venus, a rebel in love.
She is authentic, not influenced by conventional or political considerations or judgements. She knows how to flourish and courageously follows her own path. She can feel deep joy as she can feel devastating pain. She knows that the clue to self-empowerment lies in radical, authentic self-acceptance, breaking free from the internal prison of repressed emotions.
She knows that the path of love is not soft and sweet, that romance is not all fairies and unicorns. She rather unveils romance in the daily vagaries of Life and gets truly turned-on by humanness.
She is not afraid of her own shadow and in speaking her truth. She has learned to love herself in the absence of the lover. She genuinely stands in her power, embracing the fullness of her Life experience.
No one better than Rupi Kaur (milk and honey) can describe her mindset:
“I do not want to have you
to fill the empty parts of me
I want to be full on my own
I want to be so complete
I could light a whole city
I want to have you
cause the two of us combined
could set it on fire”
It’s the flame of love that ignites her, the thirst for real connection, for real presence illuminating her dark hiding places. When love comes, she truly shows up for it.
Real love is a place where we can hold a place for the other’s magnificence as well as his shadow. Real love gives comfort, fosters vulnerability and rejects distraction and disguise.
Real, love is never (pret)ending and prefers a genuine frown over a faked smile.